Ever since I was a little girl, I had of course dreamed of becoming a wife. I wanted to have a happy little home shared with a man who was my best friend. A man whom I can grow old with and love with all my heart. I had hoped that it would happen not too long after I graduated high school. But that didn’t happen. Then I thought perhaps it would be when I was in my early twenties; and somehow that didn’t happen either. Surely it would happen in may late twenties; but guess what?! That didn’t happen either.
Throughout the next ten+ years having this hope of marriage deferred brought with it many times of testing. I stood on the sidelines of life watching my three younger brothers and many of my close friends join in holy matrimony while I remained a single young woman. I was overjoyed and happy for them but at the same time, my heart yearned for the same fulfillment marital bliss seemed to bring each of them. I had to purpose in my heart to dare to trust God with my hopes and desires. Even though I had failed many times in giving God thanks in every season of my life, I had to choose to see His goodness in all life developments that I wouldn’t have been able to appreciate had I been married.
As time went on, my desire of marriage was still unfulfilled but it gave me ample opportunities to trust God completely and to come to know Him in ways that I had never experienced before. I am still filled with amazement when I realize the amazing opportunities I have been given to serve the Lord in Chicago, Romania, Mexico, China, Nicaragua, and Guatemala. Looking back, I wouldn’t trade those times for anything!
I did realize that I had to keep myself in a spot of availability for when the day would come when the Lord would see fit to bring along just the right guy for me! I knew for a fact that the man of my dreams wasn’t just going to drop out of heaven and land on my doorstep! But it did appear that as the older I got most men around my age were already married. The “fish pool” seemed to be getting smaller and smaller.
Well, praise the Lord for the technological age we live in! Just like Abraham sent out his servant to a far away land to bring back a wife for his son – sometimes, our immediate boundaries need to be extended to further regions of the world. In my case, it was to the wide open west!
To some I may have done the unthinkable and to others I may have done only what make perfect sense but I joined eHarmony. Yes, you read that right! I set up a profile and was very specific in what I was looking for in a future mate. To make a long story short, it was in the early part of November that “smiles” were exchanged between a handsome young fellow and me. Over many weeks, a host of questions, emails, phone conversations, and video chats ensued. A friendship like no other began to blossom and advance quite rapidly. We agreed that we both wanted to meet; and when we did, we found out that we really liked each other. We shared so many similar interests and seemed compatible in many ways. But what meant the most to each of us was that we shared a deep and growing desire for the Lord Jesus Christ and wanted to further our walk with Him.
Over the course of many months, our friendship grew into a love relationship. Our communication deepened, our trust in each other was strengthened; and the love we shared was mutual.
And then the shock and splendid surprise came not too long after. It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon, that my man and I got down on his knee and asked me if I would marry him. I told him that I would love to be his wife! And now that man, John Robert Absher, is going to be my husband!
I cannot begin to even tell you how blessed I am to share every part of my life with this man who proves everyday that he is a man of character and great integrity. He makes me smile and laugh. He cherishes and loves me in ways I had never thought possible. He encourages me to seek the Lord and think the best of others. He’s my strength in areas where I am weak. God knew I needed him in my life and I hope and pray that we will be blessed with many joyous years together. I cannot help but be head over heels in love with this man who has stolen my heart.
When I was a little boy, I was under the impression, as many little boys are, that girls were icky and to be avoided. For me, this was different though. You see, I was very shy growing up and this shyness has followed me even till this day, although not nearly with the intensity as in the past. In my teen years when I wanted to find a young lady to be my wife, I was much too shy to approach a young lady who I thought may have “potential.” But as I look back at that time of singleness, I know most assuredly this it was a gift from God and I thank Him for it.
It was back in 2012 when the Lord, through a series of events, brought me to Wyoming. I was nervous leaving my home in Montana but the Lord, in His perfect plan, knew that I needed to be here. You see, years and years ago I had asked the Lord for a very specific request. That request was that I would not date a bunch of women looking for “the one” but rather that He would lead me to the girl who would become my wife.
After moving to Wyoming, God placed me in a wonderful church; and it was because of men encouraging, (and possibly teasing me) that drove me to actively pursue finding the girl that would become my wife. In May of 2013, I got real serious about seeking the Lord for the woman He would have me to marry. I sincerely sought the Lord, started a prayer journal, and gave my desire to find a wife to the Lord. I knew that of myself I could never find the kind of girl I was looking for, after all, the girl I was looking for was rare; she was a woman of integrity, a woman of character, a woman who loved the Lord with all her heart, a woman who was true to her convictions and who stood firm for the cause of Christ.
It was in October of 2013 when I decided to join eHarmony. Yes you read that right, I signed up for an online dating website, wrote a profile and posted some pictures of myself. Those of you who know me, please pick yourself off the floor! I know it’s a shock! It was just over a month before I met the girl, who I would come to find out, was not only the girl of my dreams, but the girl that so far surpassed my wildest imagination that I am still in utter shock by how special she is. The more I got to know her the more special she proved herself to be, and the more special she became to me.
This girl, Sara Nicole, is absolutely everything I had asked the Lord for and more. She is committed to the Lord, kind, considerate, and selfless. She exemplifies the Proverbs 31 woman. She is industrious, has an amazingly beautiful voice, and is gorgeous too! Yes, the Lord gave me so much more than I could have ever imagined to have asked.
Psalm 23:5, “Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of my enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.”
In today’s culture there are so many enemies vying for the mind of men, but the Lord was at work protecting both me and my bride to be. He was at work preparing the woman who will become my wife. He was preparing me to become the husband He wants me to be! Truly my cup runneth over with the blessings of the Lord, because He has seen fit to allow Sara Nicole to soon become my wife.
It is truly a blessing to have such a girl in my life. She encourages me when I’m down. She proves every day that she is a woman of true character; a woman who lives her life according to the word of God; a woman who lives her life in such a way that people can’t help but think that there is something different about her. She is a woman who is willing to swim against the tide if it means a closer walk with our Lord and Savior.
Yes, the name Sara does mean princess and Sara Nicole is what a true princess is. Her price is far above rubies. Sara, a virtuous woman, who I know my heart can safely trust in.
I have not just fallen in love with this girl; but I choose to love her every single day. I can’t wait to see how the Lord will use us together to accomplish His perfect will. The Lord knew what kind of girl I needed in my life; and I am happy to declare to the world that Sara Nicole will become my beautiful wife who I will vow to love and cherish for the rest of my life!